The Boogieman Isn’t Real: The Frame of Mind Needed to Validate
Validation is hard and needed to deescalate fights and engage in deep connection.
Invitation or Condemnation: What Do You Hear When Your Spouse Is Angry?
4 prompts to help you take responsibility for yourself during fights.
Emotional Regulation: Using Our Whole Being to Process Emotions
To process emotions, our bodies, thoughts, and emotions must all be integrated.
A Framework for Better Communication
Communication is not just talking and listening—it is about connection and being accepted. We want to be known and accepted for who we truly are.
What to Do When You Blow Your Top with Your Spouse
Identify the deeper issues in why you lose your temper and 5 steps for what to do when you blow your top.
Improve Communication: Ask Good Questions
There is an art to communication, and everyone could use help strengthening their communication skills. While talking with our spouse, if you’ve ever felt like a deer in the headlights, this article is for you.
How to Journal Effectively: 6 Perspectives to Get the Most Out of Self-Reflection
Self-reflection through journaling is a powerful tool to help you engage emotions, deepen your life experience, and even improve relationship with others.
Engaging Shame to Escape Shame
Shame is teaching us something, if we can endure the lesson. Instead of running from our shame, we need to learn from our shame.
Striking Out or Out on Strike?
Our mindset is essential when we fail relationally. We must have a plan for how to deal with mistakes.
A Vision for Marriage: What I Want for My Clients
Hope for a better marriage. 5 points to bring relational connection.
8 Helps to Show Your Wife You are Really Listening
Practical helps you can put to work today and come back to developing greater connection with your spouse.
Resolving the Problem vs Resolving the Emotion
5 Helps to Resolve Fights with Effective Communication
Stuck Emotions
Counterintuitively, rather than “controlling” our emotions, we need to let our emotions out.
Antidote for Anxiety (part 2)
Rather than using the mind to regulate the emotions, we need to use our body to regulate emotions…
Antidote to Anxiety (part 1)
You can get to the place where you can breathe again, where you can trust yourself again, and can settle into your body
Winning her Back vs Earning her Trust
Wives can see through the things we do. If the only change in life is a change in doing things; there is a miss. The work that must be done to repair a broken relationship is not on what is done, but on who you are.
Towards Empathy and Better Communication
The first step of empathy is not listening well. The first step of empathy is engaging our own emotions.